==tulip speaks==

What are you expecting from your future husband? How do you want your man to be? What are the qualities you want to see in him? How you want him to behave? Does he has to be tall? dark? with/without mustache? You prefer a technie-geek or a sportsman? Are you willing to live with his family after marriage? What if he doesn’t want you to work in the future?

The questions may be endless but I have no answer for any of them.

You (women) are so confusing, some men may say. I’m being simple, I will defend.
You (women) can never be understood, some men may think. I  meant to be understood, I will argue.


Guys, you don’t have to jump over her fence with roses (tulips) in your hand to surpise her. You just have to send her a sms saying you miss her.

You don’t have to flatter her with praises day and night. You just have to hold your tongue not to disgrace her at any point of time.

You dont have to be tall, dark & handsome to have her. You just have to be polite.

No, you don’t have to drive a Merc either. You just need to hold her hand when you walk with her.

You don’t have to be a mind-reader. You only have to listen to what she has to say.

You don’t have to sing a song for her. You only have to stop yelling.

And I don’t understand why it is so hard for some to accept the fact that women are simple yet stunning beings!

She bore you many years ago

She is your mom

She watched you grew up
She is your grandma

She shared her  lunch with you
She is your sister

She brought you along for shopping
She is your aunt

She lend her crayons for you
She is your childhood girlfriend

She cheered you scored a goal in a match
She is your college sweetheart

She walked 7 times around the fire
with you
She is your wife

She laughed when you tickled her
She is your daughter

She gave up her life when you lost yours
She is your everything

She..a woman.

Being
out of the university may means freedom and independency for many. But
for me, its the time that is teaching me various role I playing/going
to play in time to come. My heart is saying "ammu, move forward!!!" but
my legs are stuck in one place. I’m watching the world moving fast,
people passing me by unaware of me standing there, alone. No.. its not
self-pity as some may say..this is the reality I’m seeing now. A world
unknown to me which I was safe in varsity. Feeling like a baby born
after 9months in mother’s womb-struggling to understand what is this
all about. Yet, I am now clear about one thing - Being a woman of this
century is not as easy as some may think: you are a woman with desires
on your own but at the same time, you are still bound to society’s
norms and culture. Breaking the barrier is not a piece of cake-mind
you. So, I have decided to follow the flow. My life is definitely
changing its direction. My only hope is that you will live the life to
the fullest when I’m no more. I’ll be praying for that.

A movie I have been waiting for
ever since I saw the news about it. I don’t want to sound like a movie
columnist, so let me summarize it (espl for my non-Tamil speaking
buddies) in a para. But I’m warning those who haven’t watch the movie, this may be a spoiler :p read on your own risk.

Gautham (played by Surya..do i see praveen drooling? hahaha) married Kunthavi (Jothika) and the story began
from that point. Fast forwarding the story 6 years later, their
arranged marriage seems to have changed Kunthavi’s perception that only
love marriage would bring happiness. Blessed
with a cute looking daughter, the marriage was the loviest thing you
may find on earth :). May be until, Kunthavi find her husband’s old
diary describing his college life and his previous gf (wife), Aishu. Interesting to see Kunthavi tracking down Aishu and arranging them to meet for a day.

I’ll stop the story here and let u be the judge how u wanna end it. Anyway, I do suggest you to listen to the songs by AR Rahman. They were awesome

 
Whats
so special and different about this movie? Its the approach to a
delicate situation, i must say. What would you do when you find out about your partner’s previous
relationship - be it a fling, an affair, a serious relationship or in
this case, a marriage? Kunthavi handled it well, with maturity. Gautham
made sense with his decision in the end. But this is a movie, where we,
the audience always want a perfect ending. What if its in real life? How would we react?

My
best wishes to the newly-wed couple Surya and Jothika who tied the knot
on 11th September. I guess I’m among the very few who is genuinely
happy to see them together. A man who leads his lady love to marriage
always wins my adoration. And I respect this man who stood by her all
this years. They might not come across this post, yet I believe my
wishes will reach them no matter what. God bless.

A pair of ears that listens.

A pair of eyes that cries.

A pair of lips that kisses.

A pair of arms that hugs.

A pair of hands that holds.

and….
A warm heart that loves.

Just a thought…

The world have anticipated the
birth of a new born way across the miles in Japan. Everyone awaited a
new born who may or may not end the succession crisis in Japanese
monarchy. And 2 days ago, a baby boy was
born and celebrated by Japanese all over the world. I’m sure the young
child will not realize how important his birth at least for another
decade.

If I sound
random to you, it may be because you were not following up the
succession crisis of the Chrysanthemum Throne of Japan. Being one of
the oldest monarchy in the world, the royal family of Japan has been
plagued with a dilemma-whether to allow female heir to reign as empress
as there were no males born in the family for the last 40 years. I
think you have to read about the royal family here and here before proceeding further.

I
have nothing to do with Japan, except using Japanese-made electrical
and electronic goods, but I have been following up this issue closely
for years. Mainly its because of my adoration for Princess Masako (left),
an Asian version of Princess Diana. Being a Harvard & Oxford
graduate, many have expected her to transform a traditional Imperial
Palace to a modern royalties. Yet, she became a part of the tradition
and blend with the customs of the royal family. A crown princess who
has reached 42 but only have a daughter, Princess Aiko to
show. While I am happy for her and her cute little daughter, not
everyone share the same sentiment. Expecting no male would be born to
the royal family in years to come, senior members of the royal family
begun discussing the possibility of handing the throne to a female
heir, in this case Princess Masako’s only daughter.

Yet,
God proved to be the director of this drama when a baby boy was born on
6th of Sept 2006 to Princess Kiko, the younger daughter-in-law. Now,
the majority of the Japanese are generally torn between their adoration
to Princess Masako and Princess Aiko, and the Imperial Household Law (1947) which states only males would succeed the throne.

I
am eager waiting to the latest development in a country which torn the
world during WW2 and got itself torn apart in Hiroshima & Nagasaki
bombing, only to emerge years later as one of the strongest economic
power in the world. Will they move forward by changing the law, or will
they stick to their so-called tradition?

This post is a part of ’so-what’ series ..the fourth in the series after I’m not a virgin.. so? , I’m dark-skinned..so? and I want a househusband..so?
Have a good read and share your two cents

Oh yea, before reading further, I got a small reminder here. The post entitled  I’m not a virgin.. so? which I wrote sometime ago, has nothing to do with ANYONE living or dead. Been receiving alot of  ‘enquries’ about that post whenever i quote or link to it. Quite funny actually

I’m a Tamil ponnu.. bcoz I speak, read and write in Tamil

I’m a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I was born in a Tamil family

I’m a Tamil ponnu..bcoz  I flock with Tamil girls all the time

I’m a Tamil ponnu..bcoz saree is my favorite clothing and I normally take at least 2 hours to select one

I’m a Tamil ponnu.. bcoz I celebrate each and every Tamil festival you can find in the calendar

I’m a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I know who is Thiruvalluvar

I’m a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I’ll be among the first to catch latest Rajini’s (or Kamal’s) flick in theatre..only in theatre

I’m a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I will only listen to either MinnalFM or Raaga.

I’m a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I’m dark-skinned

I’m a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I will  go through a 1 1/2 hours of rigorous ceremony during my wedding

I’m a Tamil ponnu..bcoz eventually I’ll be married off to a Tamil paiyan as well

Nope..I
am not saying all those points make me a Tamil ponnu. In fact, I’m
still searching for the true meaning of being a Tamil ponnu. Now, tell
me..what makes u a Tamilian? Or any clan you may belong to. Or dis you
find this whole clan thingy a joke? Share your thoughts with me.

*ponnu - girl
*paiyan - boy